I'm a bit allergic to the word "negative feelings". Negative means unfavourable or bad - and if something is an inevitable part of natural life, as far as I see, it cannot be unfavourable or bad. So, why are difficult and complicated emotions called negative? Perhaps, because they are [...]
When you don't get help to go through emotional experiences as a child, you don't really learn from them. If, when a bad feeling arises, we are asked to go to our own room to calm down or to return to a social situation once "you can be nice", [...]
When you meet a new person, within the blink of an eye, and often unconsciously, they create a mental image of you. People may have strong images of you, even if you may have never met them. Mental images may arise on social media or through other peoples’ stories. [...]
We are surrounded by a huge variety of things: some feel boring, some nice. However, our attention easily focuses on what is not well - this has been an absolutely essential skill for human survival. However, scanning for threats, unpleasantries, and “what I don’t have” is exhausting. Also for [...]
When you meet a new person, they create an image of you in the blink of an eye and often unconsciously. People may have strong images of you even if you have never met them before. Images may arise in social media or through other people's stories. Images created [...]
The reason we're always in a hurry is because we haven’t said NO enough. In life, there always seems to be “important” things to take care of, one more important than the other. At some point life may feel like an endless roller coaster, where we never stop, for [...]
Gratitude is not the end result, but rather an attitude to life, a valuable skill worth practicing. But why practice a thankful attitude to life? Here are six reasons from my own experience. You can choose how you feel You experience relief when you understand that you can choose [...]
Every moment and every morning is wholly new (even when you wake up in old familiar sheets), and you can, from a clean table, say that the past is dead and this new moment is fresh. In the fresh moment, you can give life a chance to regenerate through [...]
It does not matter what the colour or the value of your spoon is when you embark on the egg-and-spoon-race of life. We all have our own life path, our own challenges, our own starting points, each with our own different interests and different life situations. And yet, we [...]
The world sets so many expectations on us: you have to do this, that and the other. You see it is your duty to fulfil these expectations, and since you are able, you do so. And you keep on doing more, and more, and more. You persevere, again and again. [...]
