All emotions are messages about you, your experiences and past events. No emotion is wrong, although you may have gotten the idea that some emotions are more right than others. Some emotions just feel more comfortable than others. And it is natural for humans to avoid pain – even [...]
If you think about the whole of your day, where is your attention during the day? On the wishes, demands and worries of others? On staying on schedule? On social media? On your surroundings (the sounds, the views)? On yourself - on your feelings and the sensations of your [...]
You can't influence everything in life, but these 9 things you can affect- and it will have a greater impact on your life! Life sometimes brings you to your knees, and you find yourself lower than you could ever have imagined. That's how life is. Things happen that change [...]
On Fridays, on the eve of the weekend, I like to think about the phrase "do your best, it's enough" and think about how it could be made better for the conscientious, the ones out there who are always working hard. The conscientious often do their best beyond their [...]
I'm a bit allergic to the word "negative feelings". Negative means unfavourable or bad - and if something is an inevitable part of natural life, as far as I see, it cannot be unfavourable or bad. So, why are difficult and complicated emotions called negative? Perhaps, because they are [...]
When you don't get help to go through emotional experiences as a child, you don't really learn from them. If, when a bad feeling arises, we are asked to go to our own room to calm down or to return to a social situation once "you can be nice", [...]
A stressed person often doesn’t seem to deserve good words or encouragement, but that is when they need it the most. Instead of taking part in the show (reacting to the other’s stress reactions), you can help the stressed person with your encouraging and gentle words. Here are 5 [...]
When you meet a new person, within the blink of an eye, and often unconsciously, they create a mental image of you. People may have strong images of you, even if you may have never met them. Mental images may arise on social media or through other peoples’ stories. [...]
We are surrounded by a huge variety of things: some feel boring, some nice. However, our attention easily focuses on what is not well - this has been an absolutely essential skill for human survival. However, scanning for threats, unpleasantries, and “what I don’t have” is exhausting. Also for [...]
I had been scrolling through a superhero imagery recently, and I was a little appalled that the superheroes that kids would like to identify with are dry muscular figures. Yes, I understand that superheroes are super partly, because they are unreal fantasy characters. However, these superhero figures provide a [...]
